For the woman her husband is Paradise as well as Hell

Khandaker Nazneen Sultana

All our mutual rights and duties are referred to Allah. With rights come responsibilities.  Therefore, wives have certain obligations to their husbands.  A wife is to keep her husband's secrets and protect their marital privacy.

A wife must also guard her husband's property.  She must safeguard his home and possessions, to the best of her ability, from theft or damage.  She should manage the household affairs wisely so as to prevent loss or waste. She should not allow anyone to enter the house whom her husband dislikes nor incur any expenses of which her husband disapproves.

A Muslim woman must cooperate and coordinate with her husband.  There cannot, however, be cooperation with a man who is disobedient to Allah.  She should not fulfil his requests if he wants her to do something unlawful. A husband also should not take advantage of his wife, but be considerate of her needs and happiness.

Moreover husband and wife need a serious affair to each other. We must not put our own wisdom in competition with Allah’s wisdom. Both of theirs affection for each other should be pure.

In Al-Qur’an we find that, four perfect women were Khadija (RA) and Asiya (RA)-wife of the holy Prophet (SAW), Fatima (RA) daughter of the holy Prophet (SAW), and Marium (A) the mother of Jews. Their faith, humility and righteousness were indeed a great spiritual triumph. We all should follow them.

For the woman her husband is Paradise as well as Hell --

 From the view of the holy Qur'an:

In Surah Al-baqarah verse no.223 Allah says:

2.223. Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.

Surah Al-Nisaa’ verse no.1, 32, 34, Allah states:

4.1. O mankind! Revere your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, His mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women;- reverence Allah, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for Allah ever watches over you.

4.32. And in no wise covet those things in which Allah Hath bestowed His gifts More freely on some of you than on others: To men is allotted what they earn, and to women what they earn: But ask Allah of His bounty. For Allah hath full knowledge of all things.

4.34. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

Surah Al-Ahzab, verse no. 30 , 32, 33, 34, 35, 36 Allah mentions:

33.30. O Consorts of the Prophet! If any of you were guilty of evident unseemly conduct, the Punishment would be doubled to her, and that is easy for Allah.

33.32. O Consorts of the Prophet! Ye are not like any of the (other) women: if ye do fear ((Allah)), be not too complacent of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak ye a speech (that is) just.

33.33. And stay quietly in your houses, and make not a dazzling display, like that of the former Times of Ignorance; and establish regular Prayer, and give regular Charity; and obey Allah and His Messenger. And Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, ye members of the Family, and to make you pure and spotless.

33.34. And recite what is rehearsed to you in your homes, of the Signs of Allah and His Wisdom: for Allah understands the finest mysteries and is well-acquainted (with them).

33.35. For Muslim men and women,- for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in Charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise,- for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward.

33.36. It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path.

In Surah At-Taqabun, verse no. 14, 15, 16 Allah says:

64.14. O ye who believe! Truly, among your wives and your children are (some that are) enemies to yourselves: so beware of them! But if ye forgive and overlook, and cover up (their faults), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

64.15. Your riches and your children may be but a trial: but in the Presence of Allah, is the highest, Reward.

64.16. So fear Allah as much as ye can; listen and obey and spend in charity for the benefit of your own soul and those saved from the covetousness of their own souls,- they are the ones that achieve prosperity.

In Surah At-Tahrim verse no. 10, 11, 12 Allah announces:

66.10. Allah sets forth, for an example to the Unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants, but they were false to their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: "Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter!"

66.11. And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: "O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong";

66.12. And Mary the daughter of 'Imran, who guarded her chastity; and We breathed into (her body) of Our spirit; and she testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His Revelations, and was one of the devout (servants).

The True Quality of A Good Wife: Concerning from Hadith

1. Thauban reported that the Messenger of Allah said: "The best of the property is a remembering tongue (about Allah), and a grateful heart and a believing wife who helps him in his faith." --(Ahmad, Ibn Majah).

                                                                                       

2. Hazrat Aishah (R.A.) told that Allah's Messenger said to her, "If you wish to join me (in the Hereafter), be satisfied with worldly things to the extent of a rider's provision, avoid sitting with the rich, and do not consider a garment worn out till you patch it." --(Tirmidhi).

3. Hadrat Anas reported that the Holy Prophet had said: "For the woman her husband isParadise as well as Hell." --(Ahmad, Nasai).

 4. Imran bin Hussain reported Allah's Messenger as saying, "The perfume used by men should have an odour, but no colour, and the perfume used by women should have colour but no odour." --(Abu Daud).

5. Abu Musa reported Allah's Messenger as saying, "Every eye is adulterous (when it cast glances with lust on strange women) and when a woman perfumes herself and passes a company, she is such and such." -meaning adulterous. --(Tirmidhi).

6. Hadrat Aisha reports that she asked the Holy Prophet whose right was greatest on the woman and the Holy Prophet said: Husband's. Then she asked: Whose right was the greatest on man and the Holy Prophet said: His mother's. --(Bazaz, Hakim).

7. Hadrat Ibn Umar reported that the Holy Prophet had said: "Allah would not like even to look at the woman who is not thankful to her husband." –( Nasai)

8. Hazrat Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that the Messenger Of Allah said: " When a wife spends food of her house without spoiling there is for her its reward for what she gives away and there is also a reward for her husband for what he earns, and the like (reward) for the storekeeper - none of them diminishing aught from the reward of another." --(Bukhari).

9. A hadith related by Hadrat Anas says that the Holy Prophet observed: "When the following five evils shall creep into my Ummah, it will then be destroyed:

(i) invoking curses on one another (ii) use of liquor on large scale (iii) wearing of silken clothes (iv)increased number of dancing girls and their frequent entertainment shows in large gatherings. (v)when man shall engage in sexual intercourse with males and women shall engage in sexual acts with other females i.e. sodomy and homosexuality." --(Baihaqi).

(This article have published in the ‘Editorial page’ of ‘The News Today’ on

June 2, 2006)